Today a friend of mine referred to me as “Fit, Pretty + Zen” (you know who you are cutie), which is quite the compliment — one I am now happy to accept with gratitude and humility. I grew up with a belief, and behavior to match, that it was best to deflect compliments and to speak about myself with self-deprecating humor instead. That way I made sure I was not stepping on anyone’s toes and I didn’t have that unbecoming attitude of being full of myself. Makes perfect sense, right?!?
What I didn’t realize is that not only were other people listening to the things I said about myself — but I was listening too. 🤦🏻♀️ The words we choose matter. They give voice to our thoughts, beliefs and emotions — all the things that propel us to take action and create the circumstances, speed and direction of our lives.
I recently published a pod episode on self-love. And if I had to choose onething that has made the biggest difference in my life between feeling utterly miserable and feeling truly calm and at peace — it is self-love. When I say self-love, I mean the process of accepting and embracing the fullness of WHO.YOU.ARE. This is not about being perfect, being better than or less than anyone else, or being anything in particular. It’s about seeing yourself in a holistic way and holding space for the full human being you are — the good, the bad, the ugly and the miraculous. If you haven’t yet listened to the episode and this resonates with you, take a listen here.